How to deal with relatives?

Hi guys I'm sure most of you have felt the same, the immense frustration you get when you see your family and relatives continue eating SAD and getting all kinds of health problems. On every family meetup they discuss their blood test numbers, prescription medication, supplements.. like all SAD eaters they want to get well without dietary changes.

I used to talk about diet and give them books and DVDs but soon realizied it's a waste of time. Diet is a personal choice and I respect it.. and keep my mouth shut. They are hooked up on traditions: it's summer and time to grill sausages and eat ice cream. (I prepared a meal for them of sweet potatoes and banana ice cream, everyone liked it btw)

My mom had her first arterial embolism some years ago in her hand. I've convinced her to eat less meat but she's still doing dairy and oils. She has read the books from Esselstyn and Ornish. The others have blood sugar issues and high blood pressure. I know going vegetarian or vegan - or doing ANY changes - are big steps and difficult. For me it was pretty easy because I was so fed up with health problems and ready to try anything. I was also reading a lot so I understood the whole picture of nutrition and health.

I just want to ease my frustration and 'let it be' and focus on my own health and positive things. Any tips?

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  • I can totally empathize.

    Their inability to conceive let alone implement such an eating plan is rooted in other serious issues, imo.

  • I just want to ease my frustration and 'let it be' and focus on my own health and positive things. Any tips?

    that is good thinking right there. just focus on you and what is best for your own health, and when you feel frustration at their choices, do whatever you can to be of service to them by making them another healthy dinner or cutting up some fruit or preparing a fresh salsa with the beautiful summer vegetables that are now available; whatever you're inspired to do, cause it will make you feel good to see them enjoying healthier food.

  • yaa eat ur fruit you c how sick the sick animal it makes people haha if they wana get well they will orr not :)

  • "People know how to eat healthy, they just don't know how to be happy while eating healthy". I heard Doug Graham say that in a speech once and that pretty much sums it up for in my opinion. 

    Family thought I was crazy when I went vegan and said it was impossible to go on a fruit predominant diet. Then I go on said diet and then say.... "Well, you made it work. But, I couldn't make it work. I'm different from you." >./p>

    I'm just trying to lead by example now even though its very hard to watch family willingly hurt themselves everyday. Only tips I could give is do your best to represent the lifestyle that you promote and hopefully by some miracle you will attract them out of their own free will.

  • I saw how much pills my grandmother takes, and was worried that they make her still more ill, but she said she have to take them and i can not bring her to neat only fruits, not ev en for 4- 8 weeks, but than she could gto to doctor and see nthat she get healthier i think.

    My parents are mid till end 50 and already take so many pills. :=( but for me they said always nutrition doesnt influnce health or they laught about it maybe well knowingh that it really does influence, but they not willing to change lifestyle for better health, because for them it is a more worse lifestyle, kind of abstain / renounce and they say when i eat only fruit it have to be boring.

  • Eat lots of fruit.  Smile.  Say nothing in regards to their crap health.  Eventually they might actually ask you for help.  You already said it.  Trying sometimes is a waste of time.  I wish they would seek our help.  Their diet presents them from having any rational thinking. LOL  I mean what else can you do?  They probably get scammed first by one stupid diet book or pills or whatever and then they dont wanna listen to anyone else because those scammers ruined trying and they figure there's nothing they can do but just live through ill health and complain.

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